5 Tips for the Introverted or Shy Postpartum Moms to Grow Your Village
*raise your hand if you make your partner do all of the socializing*
We all know that becoming a new mom can be overwhelming without any socializing and or introverted or shy moms, it may also bring feelings of anxiety when it comes to making new friends. Connecting with other moms is essential for support and camaraderie during this phase of life, but how do we make friends when all socializing feels forced, and we’d rather be alone?
If you're a self-described introvert mom looking to expand your social circle, here are five tips from Erin Schlozman, author of This Postpartum Life blog, to help you navigate the journey of making friends after having a baby:
1. Start with Small, Low-Pressure Gatherings:
For introverted or shy moms, large group gatherings can be intimidating. Instead, focus on smaller, low-pressure events where you can engage in more intimate conversations. Consider inviting one or two moms you've met at parenting classes or local mom groups for a coffee date or a relaxed playdate at a nearby park. These settings allow for more meaningful interactions, making it easier for you to connect with others.
Tip: Try a FIT4MOM Playgroup!
2. Attend Mom-Specific Groups:
Look for mom-specific support groups or clubs tailored to your interests. These groups often understand the unique challenges you might face when trying to make friends and provide a safe space to share experiences. Joining such a group can help you feel more understood and supported, encouraging you to step out of your comfort zone and form lasting connections.
3. Utilize Online Platforms for Initial Interaction:
Take advantage of social media and online platforms to initiate conversations with other moms. Many introverted individuals find it easier to start interactions online before meeting face-to-face. Participate in online parenting forums or groups where you can contribute to discussions, seek advice, and connect with like-minded moms. Once you feel more comfortable with someone, consider transitioning to in-person meetings.
4. Embrace Shared Activities:
Participating in activities that align with your interests can serve as a natural icebreaker. Whether it's attending a book club, joining a fitness class for new moms, or taking up a hobby like painting or gardening, engaging in shared activities gives you common ground to build connections. Focus on what you enjoy and seek out opportunities where you can meet other moms with similar passions.
5. Keep Doing What You’re Already Great At:
Show off and practice your active listening and empathy skills. Naturally introverted individuals often excel in active listening, a valuable skill when making friends. Practice being an attentive listener during conversations, showing genuine interest in what other moms have to say. Additionally, offer empathy and understanding when sharing your own experiences. Authenticity fosters deeper connections, and many moms appreciate someone who can genuinely relate to their feelings and struggles.
Bonus Tip: Be Kind to Yourself:
Remember that forming new friendships takes time, and it's okay to feel hesitant or nervous initially. Be kind to yourself and celebrate the small victories along the way. Don't feel pressured to conform to extroverted social norms; embrace your introverted nature and seek out connections that align with your personality and comfort level.
For introverted or shy moms, making friends after having a baby can be a gradual and fulfilling process. By starting with smaller gatherings, utilizing online platforms, and embracing shared activities, you can find like-minded individuals who understand and appreciate your unique qualities. Emphasize active listening and empathy in your interactions, and remember that forming genuine connections takes time. Be patient, be kind to yourself, and allow friendships to flourish naturally. The bonds you create will become an invaluable source of support and joy throughout your journey as a new mom.
Local Tampa Moms Groups & Interest Mom & Me Classes
- Baby Bungalow - Offers Age Specific Small-Group Playgroups through the Children's Board
- Community Roots Collective - has many free small groups including lactation support, MotherCraft, playgroups, sensory play, and more.
- FIT4MOM Tampa - Offers playgroups, moms' nights, and group workouts focused on Strength in Motherhood.
- Music Moms: Allisongs, Sunflower Patch,
- Yogi Moms: Bella Prana, Sunflower Patch, Baby Scene
- Artsy Moms: Yellow Bird Studio, Color Me Mine
- Exploration Moms: Wild School Tampa Bay, Tinkergarten
- Groups with Subgroups based on Age/Location: Moms of South Tampa, Westchase Moms Group, Tampa Bay Moms Group, MOMS Club, MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers), TBAMoMS (Tampa Bay Area Moms of Multiples)
- Indoor Play Spaces (not groups but great places to meet moms!): Playgrounds of Tampa, Little Play Place, KPeas Play Place, Milestone Zone
About the Author:
Erin Schlozman, MA, LPC, LCPC (4th.Trimester. Wellness) is a licensed therapist and mom of two who supports new parents with the resources, community, and the authenticity it takes to navigate postpartum life with confidence. Follow her here.
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